[CyberTOPS] BIG NEWS!!!!!

[Teri]

I have decided, after the past months of anguish I am experiencing in my
chapter, to branch out and start another chapter.  This will be the third one
I have started.  First I tried to evaluate where I went wrong with this
chapter, since I started it and nurtured it to frustration.  Like any mother
would do and their child goes wayward.  But now I realize it was a chapter of
different people then when I started.  And these people come from different
lifestyles and back grounds, different life experiences.  I didn't fail.... I
am just moving on.  I also realized with out growing pains TOPS would rarely
have new chapters.  I am good at starting chapters and I hope this is my last
one.

I also learned that my leader now was feeling so much pressure to keep up with
me from the past.  Instead of being her own person... and so when I offered
some suggestions in private she took offense and turned me off completely.  I
told her I wanted to help her become a better leader and asked if she was open
to suggestions... she said yes, but meant no.  I just wish she would tell me
the truth, instead of lie.  I didn't talk much during our meetings in order to
let her do her own thing.  So as I sat there she still felt threatened as if I
was judging her... I wasn't... so that is why when I asked her recently if she
had talked to the A. Coordinator she lied and said yes.  She didn't want to
lose face in front of the chapter.  I didn't mean it that way... so now she
will be able to sink or swim without a threat of my presence.

I have talked with members and want no hard feelings.  I will keep in contact
with those who want to.

Now next week I am starting my new chapter.  I am looking forward to starting
the chapter and get myself moving in the right direction.

Thanks for all the support and ears thru all of this...
TOPS HUGS
Teri