[CyberTOPS] The best self-defense/rape protection I've ever read. Just had to share with you all.

[Marie]

Tops and kops, please read and share with your friends.
Your friend,
Marie M.

Please read this and stay safe.


Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

This is important information for females of ALL ages .

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends. I 
forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female 
friends and this information is too important to miss someone. Please pass 
it along.



A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they 
look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts :



1)  The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle They are 
most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other 
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a 
woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets.



2) The second thing men look for is clothing .. They will look for women 
who's clothing is eas y to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors 
around specifically to cut clothing.



3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through their 
purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and 
can be easily overpowered.



4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 
00a.m. and 8:30a.m.



5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store 
parking lots . Number two is office parking lots/garages Number three is 
public restrooms



6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and 
quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about 
getting caught.



7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year 
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.



8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it 
only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't 
worth it because it will be time-consuming .



9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other 
similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.



Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the 
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys 
you're not worth it.



10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following 
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or 
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is 
it, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here', 
'we're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify 
them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.



11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you 
and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said 
they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showe d that she would not be 
afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.



12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and 
carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding 
it out will be a deterrent.



13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by 
outsmarting them . If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch 
the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the 
upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD .  One woman in a class this guy taught 
told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape 
her and was so upset she broke through the ski! n and tore out muscle 
strands - the guy needed stit ches.  Try pinching yourself in those places 
as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a 
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is 
extremely painful You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him 
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is 
that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.  Start causing 
trouble and he's out of there.



15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers and 
bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them 
as possible!. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I 
ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.





16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your 
surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd 
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your in stincts!!!



You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the 
guy really was trouble.



 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body.  If 
you are close enough to use it, do!



2.Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for 
your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from 
you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse 
than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER 
DIRECTION!



3.If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail 
lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.. The 
driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.



4.Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, 
working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. 
DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect 
opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, 
and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS 
AND LEAVE.



a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, 
repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, 
wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back 
seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and 
run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.



5. A few! notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking 
garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side 
floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger 
door.  Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their 
vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the 
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you 
may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to 
walk you back out.



IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)



6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible 
places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at 
NIGHT!)



7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! 
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even 
then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.. RUN, preferably in a 
zig -zag pattern!



8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP. It may get you 
raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well 
educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women.. H 
e walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle 
or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.



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9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying 
baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because 
it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you 
do, DO NOT open the door.'



The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, 
and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The 
policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT 
open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry 
recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone 
dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it! , but have had 
several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their 
doors when they're home alone at night.



Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This 
e-mail should probably be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was 
mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the 
serial killer in Louisiana.



I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. 
A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this 
to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, 
daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.