[CyberTOPS] reFOCUS - Issue 22 - 2008 (Accept It...or NOT)

[Marji Clark]

The contest queen of my chapter, Chris Godaire, has done it again.  "Give Me
5" contest.  Email me if you want the contest.  Concept is that you start
out with XX number of points and you don't want to lose any.  This is
working for me - I am trying to keep my points!

 

Do you ACCEPT IT?  Do you ACCEPT that you will not get to goal?  Do you
ACCEPT that you will not lose weight?  Do you ACCEPT that you will gain it
back?

I am mad.  Fighting mad.  Mad at myself.  Mad at everything.  Mad at
everybody.  Why?  Because I have been fooling around.not doing what I need
to do.  I have ACCEPTed being stuck.  I have ACCEPTed that I can't change.
I have ACCEPTed status quo.  I have ACCEPTed yo-yoing.  

WELL NO MORE.FROM NOW ON.I will ACCEPT only the following:

.that I have to eat less than I have been eating.

.that I have to drink my water.

.that I have to keep my food diary in order to not have amnesia.

.that I have to exercise daily.

.that I want to attend TOPS and be accountable for the losses AND the gains.

.that I have to journal or talk out issues because if I don't they will eat
at me (and I will eat).

.that I have to keep myself positive.

.that I have to believe in myself and visualize success.

.that I have choices.

.that I am accountable for those choices (if I choose chocolate over fruit.I
need to ACCEPT the consequences).

.that I will be a KOPS.

 

This is the NOT part.

 

I WILL NOT ACCEPT less from myself than I know that I am capable of.

I WILL NOT ACCEPT my fat as being permanent.

I WILL NOT ACCEPT being stuck as a life sentence.

I WILL NOT ACCEPT the problems that come from being overweight.

I WILL NOT ACCEPT other people's opinions of me.

I WILL NOT ACCEPT people trying to be food pushers (including friends and
family).

I WILL NOT ACCEPT restaurants that don't accommodate my dietary needs.

I WILL NOT ACCEPT being known as the fat sister. 

I WILL NOT ACCEPT pants that are too tight. 

I WILL NOT ACCEPT excuses - mine or anyone else's, because they are just
lame.

 

What are you willing to ACCEPT or NOT ACCEPT?  Get mad and don't ACCEPT less
(unless it is the quantity of food that you eat).

Debbie from CyberTOPS - "You can't eat what you don't buy." - that is sooooo
true!

NOTES/NEWS

August 17-22, 2008 Retreat - Smith Mountain Lake, Virginia (space still
available)

2009

February 13-23, 2009 TOPS Hatter Retreat Cruise, Mexican Riviera and Sea of
Cortez, price starting at $1,299/person

April 23-25, 2009 - SRD 2009 Founders Inn, Virginia Beach, VA  Theme is
"High Hopes" Symbol Hot Air Balloon

July 16-18, 2009 - IRD at the Disney Coronado Springs Hotel, Orlando, FL
Theme is DREAMS COME TRUE IN TOPS

Single/Double $139, Triple $154, Quad $169; Hotel Description:  Check- In
3:00pm,  Check-Out 11:00am,  Restaurants, Pools, Beach, Health Club, Free
Parking, All rooms non-smoking; Room Description:  Two double beds, hair
dryer, coffee maker, iron and ironing board high speed internet access
available; Transportation: Disney's Magical Express, complimentary
transportation from Orlando International Airport to the Coronado Springs
Hotel. Call 407-827-6777; For more information on the Coronado Springs Hotel
and Disney's Magical Express visit: http://www.disneyconventionears.com;
Current tax 12.5% not included in room rates (subject to change without
notice); Housing Opens August 4, 2008.  Closing date June 15, 2009; For
Housing Information Call: Toll Free U.S.  888-774-2272 or 301-570-0800
On-Line Reservations: (http://www.globetrottermgmt.com/tops) 

       

Forbidden Food this week is - No coffee drink more than $3

Challenge is - No eating in front of the TV

 

CULitr, CU at Goal, CU at KOPS, Marji 

 

Not a TOPS sponsored or sanctioned newsletter.

 

Books and resources that have helped me:

Body Clutter and Sink Reflections (2 different books - Marla Cilley -
www.flylady.net) - my clutter is related to my weight struggle

The Solution by Laurel Mellin (first read in 1999)

Life is Hard, Food is Easy by Linda Spangle

100 Days of Weight Loss by Linda Spangle

Mindless Eating by Brian Wansink, Ph.D

Outsmarting the Midlife Fat Cell by Debra Waterhouse

www.pelizza.com <http://www.pelizza.com/>  

 

Past issues of reFOCUS can be accessed on:   <http://www.topscares.com/>
www.topscares.com and  <http://www.tops123.com/StdTOPS/InspiredFocus.html>
http://www.tops123.com/StdTOPS/InspiredFocus.html 

 

Visit the Florida TOPS website at:

 <http://mysite.verizon.net/res1vhv6/floridatops/>
http://mysite.verizon.net/res1vhv6/floridatops/ 

 

Visit the NC TOPS website at:
<http://www.topsbouquet.org/NorthCarolina/index2.htm>
http://www.topsbouquet.org/NorthCarolina/index2.htm (Coach Laura)

 

Other Websites

 <http://www.topscares.com/> www.topsCARES.com - TOPS site for Delaware,
Virginia, West Virginia, Maryland/DC, New Jersey, Pennsylvania - all are
welcome to visit

 <http://www.tops123.com/> www.tops123.com - TOPS site for Illinois,
Missouri, Nebraska, North Dakota, South Dakota, Iowa - all are welcome to
visit

 <http://www.tops.org/> www.tops.org - Official TOPS website

 <http://www.cybertops.net/> www.cybertops.net - CyberTOPS -- Where Friends
Meet for a "Net Loss"!

 <http://www.5aday.gov/> www.5aday.gov

www.smallsteps.gov <http://www.smallsteps.gov/> 

 <http://www.ediets.com/magazine/html/lifestyle>
www.ediets.com/magazine/html/lifestyle

 <http://www.dietbites.com/> www.dietbites.com

 <http://www.eatright.org/> www.eatright.org

 <http://www.hungrygirl.com/> www.hungrygirl.com

 <http://www.walgreens.com/> www.walgreens.com (look under healthy library,
under care guides)